Surprise

Constant surprise is when each motion is unlike the last - so that the body doesn’t know what’s happening next.

“For me, if my clit gets a new kind of attention than what happened just before, there’s an extra burst of pleasure.”

“It’s kind of like how you don’t get scared if you know that someone is about to scare you... when my body knows what touch is coming next, the pleasure isn’t as strong.”

Each motion is unlike the last and there is no pattern. To experiment, try taking the motions that already work for you or your partner and vary each repetition. The variation can be in shape (circles, flicks, side-to-side, etc.) or in location (approaching the clit from above, or from the side, etc.) or in speed or rhythm. You’ll notice if the variation feels better and more exciting, or feels distracting and less pleasurable.

Set Surprise is repeating each motion a few times, and then switching to a new one—without setting a predictable pattern. So each kind of stimulation has some time to build up, but before it gets boring and predictable, you switch to a new one.

“It only starts feeling good after something happens a few times in a row. But then, pretty quickly, it gets predictable. So what feels best is a mix of different moves but each one happening a few times.”

Everyone has a set of motions they like—and set surprise is a way of altering them to both keep the spontaneity, but also to let each kind of stimulation build up pleasure.

Many women who like set surprise prefer if the motion changes to become consistent when approach begins (See Consistency). So, during buildup, changing between sets of motions and then sticking with the one motion that’s happening the moment the orgasm starts to build.